How to Make Him Look Twice and Keep Looking

You gave him an eyebrow flash and an extended gaze but he never looked back. Bastard!

Now what?

Let’s be brutally honest—Shagability most likely didn’t look because he didn’t like. Should you give up? No. While disinterest is the likely reason, it isn’t the only one. Sometimes guys don’t look because they simply haven’t noticed you.

They’re having too much fun with their friends, they’re distracted with a personal issue, or they came out to have fun, not to necessarily meet somebody (I know, I hate them, too). If that’s the case (and don’t kid yourself, it often is), up your odds by paying attention to the following:

Don’t Slouch.

Your mother was right. It’s bad for your posture. What she didn’t tell you is that it’s also bad for picking up guys. Studies show that people who hold their head up are more likely to be looked at. People who slouch are not. In fact, people slouch for a reason--they don’t want to be noticed. Guys associate balanced posture (chin up, shoulders slightly back) with a fun, relaxed, and confident attitude.

Plump up your lips.

Full, moist lips make men pay attention because it reminds them of sex (the volume of your lips increase when you’re sexually aroused. Blood flow makes them engorge, increasing sensitivity and the desire to kiss and be kissed). Showcase your lips with frequent applications of lip balm and make sure to wet them (when he’s not looking, please!).

Don’t Wear Tight Clothes.

There’s a difference between form-fitting and trying too hard. Research shows men are far more attracted to clothes that invoke the imagination, that “suggest” you have a good body. There’s a difference between luring him in closer, and mashing his face against the window.

Wear Jewelry.

Especially pendants because they set off your neck (a hot zone for men) and draws attention to your man-cleavage.

Use Your Hands to Set off Your Assets.

Put a hand in the back pocket of your jeans. (This is the only time you’re allowed to hide your palm!) It’ll set off the roundness of your butt (it is round, yes?). Essentially, you want him to go from thinking, “Your nice, but...” to “Your nice butt.”

Wear Nice Shoes.

No, really. Men generally scan from the ground up—from feet, legs, crotch, torso, chest, shoulders and face. Have an imaginary conversation with Shagability and hear yourself say, “We need to talk, but first, do you like my shoes?”

Phase 3: He Looked, But That’s All.

Oh, my God, he looked, he looked! But he’s not coming over. Why?

Studies show that men need at least three instances of eye contact before they’ll gather the courage to approach (they’re just as nervous as you are and want to make sure they didn’t ‘imagine’ your glance or misinterpret it).

Especially if they’re shy. So help him out. Use this technique to make your look an unmistakable invitation to come over:

Triangulate.

Eye-tracking experiments show there’s a particular gaze pattern men use when they’re sexually attracted: From one eye to the other, down to the mouth and back up to the eyes, in a sweeping triangular movement. Use it. It’s a powerful sexual signal-- an unmistakable sign that you’re looking at him because you’re interested, not because you’re trying to place his name.

Okay, you’ve flashed, glanced and triangulated and you got zip, nada, nothing. Now what?

Freeze! Body check! Are your arms crossed? IN ANY WAY? If you’re sitting, are your legs crossed? It’s okay to sit in the traditional “Open 4” (the typical male way of sitting—one ankle resting on the knee of the other leg) as long as you’re foot is pointing to him and you don’t drape your arm over, creating a double barrier.